A mom's wish

Every mother has struggled with the question of whether she is doing a good enough job. It’s only natural to worry about our children, and whenever one of them does something wrong, we ask ourselves if we did anything to cause the behavior. However, it’s important to remember that we can do the job perfectly. I wish for all that we conquer these inner uncertainties and become mothers who know they are not only good enough, but great!

The meaning of being a mother is virtually endless. A mother is a protector, a disciplinarian and a friend. A mother is a selfless, loving human who can sacrifice many of their wants and needs for the wants and needs of their children. A mother works hard to make sure their child is equipped with the knowledge, skills and abilities to make it as a competent human being. Being a mother is perhaps the hardest, most rewarding job a woman will ever experience.

The role of a mom is critical to children’s success. How we view ourselves, display our ideals and consistently parent does make a difference and when we are confident in our decisions, well… makes all the difference in the world. Confidence is a crucial part of our lives; as children and adults. Without it, we are left with a low self-esteem; feelings of unworthiness; and vulnerable to the pitfalls life sometimes doles out. Confident moms raise confident kids and this, above all else, is the very foundation which will determine the future success or failure of our children.

All that said, here is what I wish above all things for us all moms for us to be not only good enough, but great:

#1 To be a role model to our children

If our self-esteem is high, our children will pick up on that part of us and absorb it. Keeping a positive attitude in everything we do. If we become worried or frustrated, avoid outwardly expressing it. Or if we do, make sure that we show how we solve the problem and create a solution to the frustration. Negativity in the home is unhealthy, unproductive and creates an uncomfortable environment, especially for children.

Counteracting their exposure to the unpleasant things in life by having frequent talks invoking the positive aspects. Helping build our children’s self-esteem by giving them certain responsibilities around the home, and rewarding them for a job well done. Giving them the freedom to make mistakes and learn from them. Encouraging them in anything they wish to achieve, utilizing a positive tone.

#2 To be open to their thoughts and feelings

If they have been confronted with a particular situation, listening and being attentive and comforting. However, trying not to tell them what to do but allowing them to work it through in their own mind. This will give them the tools they need to learn how to interact with others. It is a crucial step in their development. Allowing them to solve their own problems will boost their confidence immeasurably.

Being sensitive to their needs; not brushing aside what may seem trivial to us. Remembering when we were going through the same phase; being always mindful of it. The more confidence we display in our life, the more confidence our children will retain in their own lives.

#3 To follow Our Own Parenting Instincts

Moms have a sixth sense when it comes to parenting. Beginning with the birth of a child, or sometimes before, an immediate instinct; a signal if you will, instantly hones in on the baby’s every need. The confidence to follow our own parenting instincts is an inherent trait, and one which we need to listen for.

Today, there are {almost too} many tools available to help moms and dads become good parents. Perhaps too much information can contribute to the lack of confidence we may have. Instead of relying on own instincts, we are immediately thrust into the world of information overload. We feel that we must not know how to care for our child or make the right decision and doubt enters the scene. In addition, the advice given is sometimes conflicting and confusing, which frustrates us even more. Faced with the many decisions we have to make, our responsibility for our children becomes pressure-packed, thus producing indecisiveness and an inability to cope. It doesn’t have to be this way. If we learn to trust our own maternal instincts, we will never be led astray. Learning to be flexible, and trying other methods and approaches when parenting. Being open to the advice of trusted friends, family and mentors. While we may think we are alone, we are not!

Finally, rest assured that by allowing our confidence to shine through we will enable our children to grow up embracing who they are and having us as a great role model to lovingly carry them there!​


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